Dr. Eboni Green
April 7, 2024
It takes a special kind of person to be a good caregiver. Whether you’re caring for an elder family member or a loved one with special needs, it is an incredible undertaking that can easily become overwhelming. Because most of your attention will likely be on your loved one needing care, it is essential not to overlook your mental health. The following are four tips you can use as a caregiver to prioritize your mental wellbeing.
It’s okay to feel stressed, frustrated, or even resentful at times. Caregiving can be emotionally taxing when you’re caring for someone that you love. You want the best for them and the situation of being their carer probably wasn’t something you initially planned for. It can be incredibly difficult when those we love are increasingly ill, and so it makes sense that changes in your loved one’s condition may result in increased stress, anxiety, and for some depression. Consider talking to a friend, joining a support group or even seeking professional counselling if you need help to overcome your anxiety or depression. Be sure to seek out the proper supports because your mental well-being matters.
While you may be used to being the person that people turn to in times of need, be mindful of the fact that there are also people who are ready to support you when you are struggling. This includes those close to you, and professional service providers. For example, if you are particularly concerned about your mental well-being, then you may want to look into an IOP (Intensive Outpatient Program) in your local area.
While this may seem daunting and will require you to take time away from your work, nothing is more important than your well-being. Your colleagues would rather you were healthy and happy once again, and the sooner you reach out to these facilities, the sooner you can kickstart your healing journey.
Managing caregiving responsibilities can be overwhelming, especially if you’re juggling multiple tasks and appointments. Whether you’re a full-time caregiver or providing part-time care while juggling work and other responsibilities, staying organized will always make your life easier. Keep a calendar or planner to track appointments, medications, and important dates. Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps can also help reduce stress and being overwhelmed. If you have the option of bringing in additional help, then do that as well. This could be hiring Meals on Wheels to take care of dietary needs, or a cleaning service to keep on top of the housework. What is important is that you do what is necessary to stay organized and less stressed.
Your physical health directly impacts your mental wellbeing, so prioritize activities that promote good health where you can. Eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep each night. Avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms like excessive alcohol or caffeine consumption, which can worsen your stress and anxiety.
Finally, aim to find meaning and purpose in your life outside of your caregiving role. While it can be rewarding, it can also be all consuming and it’s easy to lose the person you were before you were in this situation. If you get chance, have fun with hobbies and socialize to keep sight of ‘you’. Find meaning and purpose in your role as a caregiver too by focusing on the positive aspects of providing care. Celebrate small victories, cherish moments of connection with your loved one and remind yourself of the difference you’re making in the life of the person you love.
Self-care is vitally important for longevity as a caregiver. Make sure you are taking good care of yourself.
